10 principles of the Importance of
family relationships-
Kelsey Kimball (Taylor)
Family is stronger together-
Family is stronger when they rely on each other. Father and
mother both have an important role in the family to take care of their children.
It is crucial for them to love and care for each other as well as for their children.
With both parents in the home it is easier for children to feel safe and
secure. When knowing that their parents love each other it will bring peace of
mind to a child. It is also very important to have both father and mother
because they both have important and crucial roles in the family. With the
father in the home there is protection from outside dangers as well as the
safety that comes from having a home and food. With a mother there is the
compassion and care that comes from a caring mother with clean clothes and
prepared food. I believe that they have opposite and equal roles that help
children be taken care of completely.
Born that way?
There has been confusion in the world about the gender
roles. Yet Heavenly father created Adam and eve to be husband and wife. This
means that he created a man to love and take care of a woman, and woman to love
and cling to a man. He made our bodies and therefore biologically we are meant
to be attracted to the opposite gender. This also means that before this life
we already had our genders and were either male or female. The world has become
corrupt and has caused confusion in the lives of young people. Sometimes a
child will act differently than what is expected and just because of
differences in preferences they may be labelled as different, feel estranged
and then look to those of their own gender for acceptance. When they continue
to lack acceptance their desire for closeness may be corrupted into feelings of
need for intimacy which may be misinterpreted and then acted upon as needs for
intimacy. This can be caused also by the misuse of our bodies, feeling distant
from parents of our gender or from pornography. Therefore people may feel
confused as to why their bodies react a certain way (towards people of their
own gender and believe that is how their body is meant to act) when in reality
it has just been caused by situational or environments.
Finding the right person
When looking for a dating partner it is important to first
focus on what qualities and attributes you are ultimately looking for. It is
easy to get caught up in the moment of romance and disregard all desires that
you have for a future spouse. But a key element in a happy marriage is finding
someone compatible. The more similarities and interests you share the easier it
will be to have an enjoyable marriage. If you are looking for certain good
qualities in someone it is important to have those qualities as well. So that
you will naturally be attracted to a good person if you are doing whats right.
One way to find the person is to be social. Be in atmospheres that are uplifting
and that you would want to find someone in. If you are friendly and nice this
will give more people the opportunity to meet you. Also if there is someone who
has similar high standards such as your own it’s also convenient. When you both
have similar religious backgrounds it can also help. You want to be with
someone that helps you be the best person you can be. That encourages you to do
good. Also someone who respects you and cares for you as you are. You want to
be your true self so that you can find someone right for you.
Adjustments in marriage
When you become married you need to realize that now your
life is different than it will be before.
Usually at the time of marriage we are young single adults who are at
the most selfish point of our life. Most of what we do is for ourselves, and
many times it’s spontaneous. When we are married we need to realize that our spouse’s
needs should come above our own. This may change the dynamics of our lives and
how we are used to acting on a day to day basis. I just got married this last Saturday
and it has been wonderful. What has especially made our marriage sweet is the
amount of things we do for the benefit of each other. For example I have been
very sick since the day after our wedding and he is completely going out of his
way to help me feel better. This makes me feel loved and helps me know that he
will always put me first just as I will put him first.
Faithfulness in marriage
Faithfulness in marriage is so crucial. Because in marriage you
need to have complete trust in each other in order to feel fulfilled and feel
at peace. This trust is built over time and is very strong through the years
yet can be extremely fragile and difficult to rebuild if not impossible. That
is why it is of upmost importance to be completely faithful in every way. I
feel that many people joke about other relationships when they are dating, but
I feel this starts off their relationship on an unsure foundation. It is
important to build that trust from the very beginning. Faithfulness comes in
many different forms. Automatically people assume it means in actions. But it
can include so much more than this. Even the act of looking at another person and
desiring them is being unfaithful to your spouse and can be detrimental in
marriage. I believe the same comes from dwelling on past relationships as well
as gawking at television stars. We want our spouse to know that our complete
love and focus is o
Dealing with Crises
In times of crises there are many different difficulties that
arise. This can come from tragedies such as the death of a loved one or from
the loss of a job and continuous unemployment. There can also be crises that
come from loss of a home, or difficulty in family or anything that disrupts a
marriage such as divorce. When dealing with crises there are different
reactions that people tend to have there is being in denial where you pretend
to yourself and others that it hasn’t occurred. There is placing blame were you
try to victimize someone and place fault in what has happened. Sometimes a
coping mechanism is ignoring that something occurred until you can figure it
out. I believe the best way to deal with a crises is to lean on your family
members. I have noticed when I had a trial or crises in my life I have felt
most secure when my husband (or fiancé at the time) would support and comfort
me.
Coming to a consensus not just a compromise
In marriage I believe it is important to work together to
form an agreement of what is the most important thing to do. This is because in
marriage there are two individuals who at times have two different opinions. Then
when a situation comes up in which they have opposing views it can at times be
difficult because both people have their own idea of how to handle it. Therefore
its firstly important to include the Lord in your marriage so that he can help
you make the correct decision. This can come through pondering over the issue together,
expressing ideas or concerns, listening respectfully, praying beforehand and
after for guidance and feelings of peace and then deciding together. In this
way both people can feel right about the decision and will be strengthened together.
Father’s and their importance in the home
Fathers have a crucial importance in the home. They are able
to provide and protect their families. Growing up I could always count on my
dad to bring peace to the home as well. He really believed in the importance of
teaching correct principles and letting us guide ourselves. Something else
important about fathers is that they usually enjoy having fun with their kids.
With my father we as a family went swimming, hiking, playing sports and other
activities. He believed in the importance of family activities. He was also
able to preside in the home and guide us in scripture study and prayers. It was
really important having him set an example in the home. What else is really
important is that they are a strong role model for boys which helps them build
a secure attachment, as well as girls which help them know what to look for and
expect in a future husband.
Active not reactive parenting
As a parent it is important to prepare to be a good parent. This
means that you are preparing ahead of time to know how to teach your children.
One way to do this is by making sure you and your spouse talk about the way in
which you want to raise your kids. This will help you both to know the way that
you will teach and discipline. By deciding ahead of time it will help you be
prepared for difficulties or events that occur. That way you already know what
to do in a certain situation. This means that you will have decided how to act
beforehand in a peaceful setting instead of the heat of the moment. This will
make sure that you treat your children in a positive good way.
Prevention of divorce
It is really important to make sure there is a strong
communication in your marital relationship. This will help you both feel
involved in each other’s lives which will continue to build your relationship.
Strong communication can also help you both recognize the needs and wants of
each other. When people talk about their deep feelings they learn to rely on
each other and grow closer together. It is also important to be cautious
against outside temptations and stresses against the marriage. This includes
the importance of being completely faithful and honest with each other. In this
way you will be able to build a strong sense of trust which can allow you both
to be secure in your relationship. It is also useful of course to make sure
that you look for the qualities in someone that you want in a future spouse. So
that you do marry someone with similar views and therefore there will be less
difficulties in marriage. It is also important to recognize that no one is
perfect. Our temple sealer mentioned that we shouldn’t look for fault in each
other. It is important to realize that through marriage you need to work to
make it successful. As well as laugh along the way during your marriage. This will
help keep peace in the home and help you to continue in happiness.