Saturday, June 6, 2015

Adjustments in marriage

Because I am preparing to be married I find it really interesting to learn about how to prepare for marriage and also how to know what aspects to look for in a spouse.
Specifically this week it was interesting to learn about the possible adjustments that are needed in marriage and how to lesson the change. Firstly something that is really important is to be able to really know the person you are marrying. To be best friends with them and learn how to communicate through the challenges of life is so crucial.
Some of the things that should be discussed to help strengthen marriage in the beginning is about the ideals or specific things you are wanting in a marriage.
Sometimes we assume the other person will already know what we want and need but we need to tell them. We can discuss together what we are looking for, this can include who will be taking on the chores, who will work, how to pay for bills, when you will have kids and how you will discipline your kids.
Another thing that is really important is recognizing that there will be adjustments made in marriage.
This first of all is learning to put the other person above ourselves. In marriage we need to be each others best friends.
Also recognize that there will be stresses but that if we can discuss together, then we can work all things out.
Something else really important in preparing for a new baby is to include your husband in the process.
This will connect him to yourself and the baby so he feels that this is a family development.

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