Saturday, May 23, 2015

"Born that way"? Understanding the truth about same gender attraction

Heavenly Father created man and women in his own image. With the intent to build families, with a man and a women lawfully wedded in marriage, so they can raise their children in a happy safe enviornment.
However there are people who feel same gender attraction or have later in life developed these feelings.
Where do they come from? Is it something they are born with?
There are many resources and studies done to show that although these people may have had these feelings at a young age, that it isn't necessarily a biological tendancy.
That many people who have experienced these feelings have been neglected by a parent, or by peers of the same gender which causes them to have a desire to obtain validation and admiration from their peers which becomes misinterpretated as feelings and then turned into attraction, or they have been abused sexually, or corrupted by pornography. In many cases these people become confused by an event and feel neglected and then because of attention (sometimes sexual abusement by an older person) they become confused and feel these attractions. In this video shown on youtube there are people who at one point had these homosexual tendencies which were caused by mistreatment, or an unpleasent event and then later were able to recognize that they didn't want these feelings, that it was making them feel depressed and want to get over so that they could feel peace and calm. And that through therapy they were able to recognzie events that caused these homosexual tendencies and overcome them. That they were able to then feel joy, get over depression and move on with their lives.

Understanding Same-Sex Attraction- (on youtube by Family Watch International)

There were also flawed studies done trying to provo that being homosexual was something a person was born with, yet with further investigation their theory was proved incorrect and misleading and therefore later admitted that in reality there was no such thing found as a "gay gene" that in reality the brains that were tested were of older men or women who had already been engaging in many years of homosexual behavior which caused their brains to react and therefore look a certain way, which wasn't an indication that they had those tendencies at birth.



Another interesting fact was that if people were born "homosexual" then if they had an identical twin then their twin should also be homosexual, because they share the same genes, yet in reality the studies done of twins showed that only 11% of people who had a homosexual twin also had homosexual tendencies. Which showed taht it wasn't genetics, and more of nurture rather than nature.



Also many times people confuse a boys liking of art or seemingly "feminine" activities with saying- oh they must be "gay" when in reality it doesn't mean that at all. Because young children do not have these sexual tendencies and in reality sometimes they simply have hobbies that don't conform with society. But then when people notice these differences instead of recognizing that it may simply mean that the child is slightly different (maybe because of a neglectful father and over bearing mother causing him to have more feminine qualities, or no brothers and only sisters) or things like this, that they may simply have these other tendencies. But instead of thinking of this possibility people label the child causing them to think "I guess I am different" which leads to "maybe I am gay" being feminine as a male is an Entirely different thing then a boy liking another boy and having same gender attractions. there was a story shared about how someone's brother was acting "gay" at the age of 2 and therefore everyone talked about it. Well the thing is that no one at the age of 2 has sexual attractions. So he wasn't "gay" he was simply more feminine. But maybe because of the way he was treated as different and labeled, he felt that he was different and later played the role everyone said that he fit. Many times it is when a child does not have the solid support of family or friends that he feels isolated and confused from peers of his own gender and then later romanticizes the need of acceptance and this is misinterpretation into feelings of attraction. Which then is acted upon causing these same gender attractions to grow, because it was acted upon.



To feel these feelings of same gender attraction is not a sin, to act upon it however is against the Lord's plan and therefore is.Homosexuality: What Science Can and Cannot Say by Dr. Dean Byrd.

           -This document shows that the "gay gene" doesn't exist

           - evidence from twin studies disproving that people are born "gay"

           -reasons why people became homosexual, and how they overcame it

           - helping people overcome same gender attraction: Very effective,                        people feel more at peace and happier.

           - proof that sexual identity isn't fixed

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This book also helps people understand Same Sex attraction,

"Understanding Same sex attraction- Where to turn, and how to help"

http://familyfaithlife.weebly.com/uploads/1/3/9/1/13913896/understanding_same-sex_attraction.pdf


Video by John Stossel, called "Men, Women, and the Sex Difference" here it proves through science that our brains are made differently based on male or female. That women naturally have the desire to nurture, and men are protective.

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